Friday, November 6, 2009

Me So Horny, Me Love You Long Time* (1)

*Full Metal Jacket or 2 Live Crew, your choice.

Now that I have your attention, please read the following announcement:

Please keep an open mind as you read this three part post. G the writer, is a separate entity from G the blogger, and thus sees the world in a radically different light. Reader discretion is strongly advised.

Its now been about eight months since I decided to concentrate on a particular genre/theme, and for the most part it's been a positive experience. I'm learning through trial and error on when to lay it on and when to back off.

For those of you who may have entered this blog somewhat late in the game and thus have no idea what I'm talking about, the topic of choice is sex. I've been adding, to varying degrees, themes of sex and sensuality to my stories. For what it's worth, this is what I feel most comfortable in writing about and using in my stories.

I frequently poke fun and make jokes about myself quite a bit on this blog. But if you read between the lines, so to speak, you'll see quite a few small kernels of truth wedged within those self-deprecating posts of mine. Take the last post I wrote making fun of myself called, "I is Motivated". Near the end of the post, I have the stoner dude asking me why I always use sex as a weapon in my stories.

This, believe it or not, is an actual question that has been posed to me on and off for the past year, and until now, I haven't been able to come up with a decent and acceptable answer to it.

So I'm going to try with this three part series of posts, to give an honest answer to that question and hopefully not turn anyone off in the process.

My first attempts at writing were for the most part, abysmal failures. They were somewhat juvenile in nature, as I tried to find my way around the written word. Sure, I was a pretty funny guy, making up parodies to some well known songs or doing verbal spoofs of t.v. commercials, but I had problems translating that humor to the paper. Due to the nature of my childhood and teenage years, my humor became, and has permeated to this day, incredibly sharp and sarcastic. So I learned early on, not to inflict that kind of stuff on paper.

About a decade later, when circumstances got my creative juices flowing, I found that writing about sex and violence (though not necessarily sexual violence) were the easiest themes for me to write about. Since I didn't want to explore themes of violence with any kind of heaviness then (2005-08), I concentrated my talents on writing about sex.

After writing my first book Shades of Love, which explored the twin themes of sex and violence in a clunky way, and thus made a good story average (in hindsight, I should have done a better job of editing), I decided that with my next book (Betrayed!) that I should really take the time to learn how to meld graphic sex and a good story into something that wouldn't turn people off and make them think that I was writing pornography.

But how, you may ask?

Simple really--and I'll explain how in my next post

10 comments:

  1. They say to 'write what you know' and I'm not sure if that applies to you or not ;)

    When you write from a genuine place it's always refected in the work.

    Myself, I'm not a fan of gratuitous sex or violence in fiction. But if it's central to the story, to what the characters are experiencing, I don't have a problem with it.

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  2. Although I've written erotica, I most of the time have very little sex in my books. Much more violence certainly.

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  3. Talon: I don't exactly 'write what I know' beyond using my imagination and reading/seeing other types of material.

    I would like to think that for a good chunk of my longer stories that it is central to the story. Some of my stories the sex and violence are toned downed (if not completely eliminated). It's just the matter of knowing when to go heavy and when to back off.

    It's stil a learning process.

    Charles: Yes, I would agree with your statement. From what I've read of your work so far, the violence is heavy and the sex is somewhat non-existent.

    Mad Cat Lady: I would hope so. Sometimes, the proper wording of a blog post is the key element of getting people to stop and say "What???"

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  4. I'm very intersted in this topic. Sex in writing is definitely a topic that has many connotations and tensions associated with it. The truth is that I'm more of a prude than I'd like to be, in that I'm more uncomfortable with sexual topics than I think a liberal, open-minded woman should be. But there's nothing that eases tension like familiarity, right?

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  5. Hi S.R.: This is actually a topic that I've visited periodically during this past year, simply because this is what I feel most comfortable in writing.

    Writing about sex is certainly an instant lightning rod, as I can personally attest to.

    I don't think one can call oneself a prude simply because certain sexual topics make you uncomfortable. There are still quite a few sexual topics that make me uncomfortable when I read them.

    Familiarity can definitely ease the tension, but as in all things that attract controversy, you really have to approach the issue from both sides of the equation.

    With these posts, I want my readers to have a better understanding of me as a writer, in addition to understanding me as a blogger and a person.

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  6. I find this subject hard to comment on. Someone I love dearly is in a violent relationship, which of course involves sex, so my view on this is definitely influenced by that, and not in a good way.

    Like Spark, I'm also a bit of a prude, but I'm kinda proud of that. :)

    But each to their own, I'm not here to judge, as long as we are true to ourselves that's what matters isn't it?

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  7. Joe: I'm much the same way in commenting about sex.

    Sex is such a difficult topic to talk about because no matter how tactfully you bring it up, you run the real risk of coming off as someone is, for lack of a better word, unbalanced.

    And in all honesty, there really is nothing wrong with being a prude. If you stay true to your core values/principles, then you have nothing to worry about.

    So yes, so long as we are true to ourselves, that's all that really matters.

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  8. Now I'm really curious about the rest of the posts! I don't think anyone should ever apologize for their creativity. I doubt Anne Rice secretly wanted to be a vampire, you know? :)

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  9. R.K.: Early on when I first started writing ('06) I really was hesitant in showing my stuff, simply because it was heavily peppered with over the top sex (thus the insults early on in the chat rooms about me writing porn).

    I've never apologized for my creativity, but I've certainly had to explain myself numerous times as to why I write what I write.

    I'm glad I got your curiousity peaked. I hope the remaining two posts will give you a better idea on how I write and who I am as a writer.

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