Monday, October 18, 2010

The Eternal Dream

I thought I would insert a momentary lapse of reason into the blog this week and open the door just a crack to show a particular part of me that I all too infrequently keep well hidden as I travel through the wide expanse that is the Cyber World.

Note: my friend will probably crucify me for the abnormal amount of superlatives that will flow from my fingertips to this post, but hey, what are friends for if they can't be happy for the things that you do and accomplish in your life?

A very good friend of mine, both here in the real world and in the cyber world, has been up until this year, joyfully and happily traversing about the eastern seaboard as a single mom/foster parent, enjoying life as the ultimately rare breed known as a responsible free spirit.

Why I say "up to this year" is because that this year (or it could've been late last year, which goes to show just how much I really pay attention), my friend decided to test that vast complex ocean that we all fear to swim in, but must if we want to do something adventurous in our lives.


Now, this may not sound much like a big deal, but for my friend this represented a giant leap of faith, as while she was very much the responsible free spirit, she was (and still is to a certain degree) also a wickedly private person. I would say that the majority of us (I say 'us' because my friend has a ginormous Facebook "family" that has become her de facto support system) were incredibly pleased about the new journey she was undertaking.

The interesting thing about my friend is that even though she cherishes her privacy, she also has no qualms about sharing things with her friends. Because of this, we were able to spend this past year reading with a growing sense of wonderment (I should say me, because I really can't speak for everyone in her circle) on how our friend was stepping out of her comfort zone and becoming incredibly confident and self-assured as the weeks and months progressed.

This growing sense of confidence and self-assuredness was not only evident in her Facebook postings, but also evident in the fractured e-mail conversations that would partake in on an infrequent basis. Even though these were infrequent at best, which wasn't really by choice, but simply the demands on our respective times as of late dictated it as such, it was still a blast to see that contentment bleed out through the e-mail.

One day, that contentment, that supreme self-confidence and self-assuredness came to a successful conclusion, and true to form, I missed a couple of signals that were being thrown my way. I had one of my seriously fractured (short) conversations which started out very strange, and ended one response later. I didn't think much of it until I got home and checked my Facebook page.

After logging in, I saw this peculiar status update from my friend (not quoting verbatim, but its pretty damn close): "Okay FB family, I said Yes!!"

I'll give you one hundred guesses and the first ninety-nine do not count on what she was saying yes to.

Suffice to say, the response from her FB family was overwhelmingly positive (hell, my response was "What?!" which was quickly followed by "That is the best news I've heard all year!"), and for any stragglers in her circle who couldn't quite believe what they were reading, she verified it a little while later with pictorial proof.

There are two reasons for this post, with the main reason being is that I'm extremely happy for my friend who was finally able to find that special someone to share the rest of her amazing life with, and this post was the best way that I knew how to give a personalized "CONGRABULATIONS!!!" (and perhaps embarrass her just a little in the process).

The other reason is that sometimes, you can get the most fantastic news from the most unlikeliest of sources, and that news can brighten your mood and blow out whatever dark cloud that happens to be gumming up your day.

To Ms. K (soon to be a Mrs in the very near future), I wish nothing but the best for you and your fiance and here's to having your marriage last as long as mine (21 and counting).


Update: On November 6, 2010, the always effervescent Ms. K became the one and only Mrs. P.


  1. Well, you old teddy bear you, what a sweet post. I am happy for your friend. I hope that the person she has said yes to will enable both of them to spend the rest of their days together. It's nice to have someone to share life with. :)Bea

  2. Congrats Ms K. Many years of happiness indeed.

  3. A feel good story indeed. This is not like you, man. :)

  4. Congratulations to your friend, G! I'm glad she stepped out of her comfort zone and I'm glad it had such a happy outcome!

  5. How wonderful to hear and I hope she is very happy. She has a good friend in you - I doubt she would mind your posting about your happiness regarding her happiness.

    A Momentary Lapse of Reason - love that Pink Floyd reference.

  6. Congrats to Ms. K. Nothing sweeter then a good lifelong connection.

  7. It doesn't matter that this lady and her beau are both strangers to me: I wish them a hearty congratulations! It's always good news when relationships blossom and flow more love into the world. Congrats to you too, G, on your 21 years. :-)

  8. A general comment (of sorts):

    Many thanks for your genuine and heartfelt comments about my friend, and I'm sure she'll appreciate each and every one. I do know that my friend had a small hand in this post because this was one of the few times that I asked for approval before putting up a post.

    I would like to direct a few responses to Lynn & Charles.

    Lynn: Until you mentioned Pink Floyd, the musical reference didn't even cross my mind. But nevertheless, it is a good one just the same.

    Charles: I am a romantic at heart and sometimes when the subject is right, I can really do it justice. This was one of those times.

  9. Awwwwww! Congrats to her! And to you.

  10. R: Thanks.

    We've been married for 21 and together for 23.

  11. Nicely written. And always good to see a friend find improvement in their life.

    And great to see a long-term marriage such as yours. Well done

  12. Darth: Thanks.

    I do have my moments of inspiration and when I do, I often churn out some incredible writing in the process.

  13. Aw...that's really sweet. Congrats to the happy couple!

  14. Lana: Thanks, and I will pass that on to her.


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